For many people, moving is an emotional decision. When we are making a major life choice we may give it thought, but it is where our heart is that is the final determination of our destination. As you think about building a home and making a move, GVHBA believes it will be helpful to understand the process and the stress and feelings that may arise.

Whether you are a new homeowner or are scaling up or down, moving, according to the experts, is now considered the third major cause of stress. According to psychological theory the separation of leaving one home for another can cause some anxiety because moving is a time that many consider to be unsettling. It is the unpredictability that makes people irritable or uncertain. Emotional and physical stresses are possible whether retiring, relocating or transferring with your company.

Consequently, it is important to keep your cool during possible high tension moments, such as negotiating the price, inspecting the house, working with sales associates and lawyers, arranging the mortgage, as well as the other details that go along with choosing where to live.

To keep a handle on any emotions that do arise and harness them during the decision-making process, consider it a challenge you can conquer. You can learn to control, not only your own stress and emotions, but also your family's too. Here are four tips to ease emotional stress:

Breathe and Pause
During stressful moments take a few deep breaths to relax. Then pause for a few seconds before you discuss all the reasons for the move and decide what to do.

Get Rid of Any Resentment
Built-up resentment from unachieved expectations shows, though you may not realize it. Find positive ways to express your emotions, like going for a walk or talking it out with a friend. Emotional and stress reactions are symptoms that say something is bothering us and making us feel insecure. This state of uncertainty about the move is normal. As soon as our decision is made we feel confident again.

Listen
During a time of decision it is important to really listen to your self as well as your family to understand that there may be some feelings of loss -- even though no one realizes it -- that can cause high-pitched reactions. When you tune in to your own and others emotional state it eases anxiety, frustration and concern and helps to make the right decision, especially when everyone involved is part of the solution.

Collaborate
Moving is usually not a one-person decision. When everyone in the family feels they are on the same team, any negative emotions quickly turn into co-operation. The key is to keep the discussion lines open.

In the analysis, when you have accumulated enough information about your new home by using your rational, logical mind, you will make choices with your heart. However, you'll be glad you took the time to think it through.

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